Friday, May 25, 2012
I just don't know what to do about B's sleep problems. I know things just seem bleak because I'm exhausted and in the middle of trying to get him to nap - AGAIN, the morning one was a battle too - but goodness it's frustrating.
We finally had him on a good routine and now he's back to waking constantly. I think he might be teething, but every time I've thought that before I've been wrong. Most days I get to the point where my efforts are not working so I give up and put him in his crib where he sobs and screams. But most of the time that works, and within a few minutes.
Rocking is not wanted, and lately nursing to sleep isn't wanted either. Standing over the crib was working - and sometimes that still works at night - but most of the time it just makes him try to scale the crib to get to me.
And my saving grace - bringing him to bed with me in the middle of the night, or napping with him - no longer works. He will not settle anywhere but his crib, and he does not tolerate anyone sleeping next to him.
The problem is that he doesn't want to nap, he wants to stay up and play, but he must nap for his health, and my sanity, so I have to ensure he does.
I've tried everything, I've even strewn toys about his crib so he can play if he doesn't want to sleep right away. It's like he has to cry some to fall asleep, and when I hold him while he does so it's a harder, more angry cry.
Honestly, I don't know if this is best. I have no idea if we're doing the right thing. We're trying, we've read a few articles and books, but what those sleep and parenting books don't tell you is that every baby is different, and what's right for one may not be right for another. (I despise parenting books, but that's another topic for a different day.)
B is sleeping now. When I went in the third time to soothe him he let me rock him to sleep. Not in a cradle hold, mind you, but tummy to tummy, his head pushed up against my neck, which he used to hate.
This too shall pass, right?
I'll take "been there," "know your pain," "shoot, I'm sorry," but I would rather not hear, "do this, "try this," "you're going about it all wrong." This is one of those times I need to vent a bit without receiving advice in return.