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Unexpected Goodbye: When Your Baby Dies

On May 14, 2010 my daughter, Charlotte, died less than two hours after birth. I felt lost when she died. I felt adrift at sea and incapable of being rescued. I wanted someone to take my hand, tell m what to do and walk with me as I learned how to live without her. I wanted a written guide, but such a thing didn't exist.

My sister’s second child was born in February of 2011.  There was concern about the pregnancy, a chance the baby would not survive. One winter’s night I began a letter to my sister. I wanted to hold her hand and be her guide if her baby passed away. That letter became Unexpected GoodbyeThis is my guide to life after your baby dies. I'm sorry you need this resource, but hope you can find comfort and peace within these pages.

My book is FREE to anyone who wishes to read it here. If you would like to download a copy it is available on Amazon (link at the bottom of the page). Make sure you click the black arrow on the top left side before reading. It will hide the preview pages and make reading much easier.

Click HERE for Kindle version!


  1. I read this, and it helped. I'm not going to lie, wish I would have never had the chance to find it though...

  2. I just lost my baby 4 weeks ago. This pain is so difficult I don't know how to get through this.

  3. @Holly,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Please let me know if you want to talk. You can contact me at


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